Quotes That I Have Gathered – L

Love, cathexis

One’s limits are one’s ego boundaries. When we extend our limits through love, we do so by reaching out, so to speak, toward the beloved, whose growth we wish to nurture. To be able to do this we must be attracted toward, invested in and committed to an object outside ourselves, beyond the boundaries of self. Psychiatrists call this process of attraction, investment and commitment “cathexis” and say that we “cathect” the beloved object. (See Maslow, Religions, Values, and Peak‑Experiences, (New   York: Viking, 1970).

M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled

Cathexis without love: M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled, says that when objects we cathect become a substitute rather than a means of self‑development it becomes cathexis without love. M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled

Love, erotic love

Bonhoeffer’s letter to Eberhard: “There is always a danger in all strong, erotic love that one may love what I might call the polyphony of life.” He goes on to explain that what he means is that we should love God with all our heart, eternally, and that this provides the cantus firma, to which all the melodies of life can relate as counterpoint. One of those counterpoint themes is earthly affection. “When the cantus firma is plain and clear, the counterpoint can be developed to its limits.” He recognizes the agony Eberhard is experiencing as a result of his separation from Renate, one he himself is experiencing in his separation from Maria. He tries to help Eberhard, and himself, to realize that the desires of earthly love are not gross or to be contrasted with spiritual love. “Eberhard, do not fear and hate the separation, if it comes again with all its dangers, but rely on the cantus firma.”

Edwin Robertson, The Shame and the Sacrifice

Love, falling in

Falling in love is a trick that our genes pull on our otherwise perceptive mind to hoodwink or trap us into marriage. Without this trick, this illusory and inevitably temporary (it would not be practical were it not temporary) regression to infantile merging and omnipotence, many of us who are happily or unhappily married today would have retreated in wholehearted terror from the realism of the marriage vows.

M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled

While falling in love is not itself love, it is a part of the great and mysterious scheme of love.

M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled

Love, “making love”

In itself, making love is not an act of love. Nonetheless the experience of sexual intercourse, and particularly of orgasm (even in masturbation), is an experience also associated with a greater or lesser degree of collapse of ego boundaries and attendant ecstasy. For a second we may totally forget who we are, lose track of self, be lost in time and space, be outside of our self, be transported. We may become one with the universe. But only for a second.

M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled

In describing the prolonged “oneness with the universe” associated with real love as compared to the momentary oneness of orgasm, I used the words “mystical union.” Mysticism is essentially a belief that reality is oneness.

M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled

Love, of self and of God

The capacity to love oneself measures one’s capacity to love God and others. . . . In the past, love of self was erroneously associated with the sin of pride. The reality is that it takes great love of self to avoid sin (destructive behavior) and to attain eternal salvation (ultimate self‑fulfillment). . . . Love of self is appreciation and respect for one’s being, including one’s personal history, race, sexual identity, physical appearance and culture.

Philomena Agudo, Affirming the Human and the Holy

Appreciation and love for one’s sexual identity becomes the foundation and basis for the capacity to love. Love of others is rooted in love of self. . . . Even the capacity to love God begins with self‑esteem, which is in reality a sincere gratitude for the gift of one’s being and existence.

Philomena Agudo, Affirming the Human and the Holy

Love one another

‘Love one another’. This gentle precept, which two thousand years ago came like a soothing oil humbly poured on human suffering, offers itself to our modern spirit as the most powerful and in fact the only imaginable, principle of the earth’s future equilibrium. Shall we at last make up our minds to admit that it is neither weakness nor harmless fad ‑ but that it points out a formal condition for the achievement of life’s most organic and most technically advanced progress?

Teilhard de Chardin, Activation of Energy p. 20.

Man The human baby, the human being, is a mosaic of animal and angel.

J. Bronowski, The Ascent of Man

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